In the last hypnotherapy workshop I attended, all the participants were given a chair therapy. The purpose of this is to settle a dispute or misunderstanding between two people. It can be ourselves with someone else, or as therapist we can help someone who has problem with someone else.
This is how it works: The subject of the therapy sits in a chair. She must put two other chairs that form a triangle with her own chair. One chair is for the person with whom she has a conflict, and one is for someone in a neutral position who will not take side with both of them. Then she puts them (imaginary) in a chair according to her choice. After the induction (this is a process where the therapist takes the subject to her subconscious level), subject can sit in the other people's chair and her subconscious mind will tell her what that person really feel.
I immediately wanted to do it because I was having a problem with one of my besties. He has grown quiet for a few days and I sensed that I had wronged him somehow, but I couldn't figure out what I've said or done that upset him. I thought he was angry. But when I took his chair, I gradually felt an immense sadness and finally something came back to me. Something I said. When I went back to my conscious state of mind, I knew that he wasn't mad. He was just sad. Very, very sad. And the reason is because he couldn't become something I wish him to be.
After that I realised something. Sometimes people you love will choose to do or to be something that makes your heart feel heavy. But you know that there's nothing you can do about it. Sometimes you just have to let them have their choices and still love them no matter what. You may pray for a change and you may believe in the power of prayer, but in the meantime, you gotta show them that you will still be there even if you don't always see eye to eye. That is, if you really love them. Many times, love is really enough. There's no need to understand, nor to accept. Just love.
