Loving a gay guy and being in love with a gay guy are equally BIG feelings. But these two sentiments tend to go the opposite way and while one is enriching for human being, the other will mess your brain.
If you have a gay bestfriend who confesses to you about his sexual preference, you will feel honored, trusted, and privileged. And the affection you have between you grow. And you know that you're special because you know that this kind of thing isn't the thing people say even to their parents. And you want to keep that trust and honor that privilege back by loving him and only sharing his secret with worms, i.e. when you're buried.
Being in love with a gay guy, on the other hand, can make you feel like a retard, and you thought the whole time "How did I let myself go this far? How did I let my brain deceive me by denying all signs?" It's like you're on a low carb diet for a year so you keep eating carrots and cabbages and then found out that your body is actually plants intolerant and all of those veggies are making you sick and fat. Nothing good will come out of it (and to anybody who says the opposite, I challenge you to experience this yourself). This sucks. Big time.
